At the moment it’s a gorgeous, sunny afternoon in Midtown Atlanta. The windows are open and the fans are spinning with the sweet, peaceful drone that’s hypnotized me since I was a child. To my left is a lovely iced coffee with stevia and coconut cream that Selah (9) made for me after she folded a load of laundry. The children’s bedroom is basically immaculate. The TV is off and there is no one asking for batteries or chargers or to talk on the phone. In front of me are my four children, a 4th grader, 2nd grader, kindergartener and 3 year old, all playing contentedly with a pile of construction paper and one pair of scissors. Yes, I mean together. Yes, I mean without fighting. No, they don’t have anything battery operated involved, especially with letters like DS, Xbox, Wii, I(enter your choice of pad, phone, touch)… It’s a moment of bliss. Something to be documented. And it’s all because we made a commitment together as a family yesterday. We’re spending the summer without toys!!
Wait, let me explain,
Last week I had a moment where I lost my cool with the kids and threatened to take all of their toys away and give them to goodwill. I say threatened because it was one of the few times that I really didn’t expect to go through with it all the way. The poor crew was already in one room with 2 sets of bunks and hardly any toys…. Anyway, the story… Poor Selah and Jake asked me to go ahead and do it! Now, if I were assuming adult motivations in my children, which we all often do, I would have gotten more angry. I would have yelled at them to not talk back, treated them poorly for the defiance they were clearly showing. Instead, I looked in their eyes and didn’t assume it was just defiance. Instead I asked them why they would say that and if it’s really how they feel. To my surprise they were as serious as I was! They weren’t trying to trap me or call my bluff. They both agreed they would rather go without toys than have the constant stress and pressure of picking them up. So we sat down and talked about what that would mean for all of us. Lucas got involved. They all got excited… The idea of the Toy Free Summer Challenge was born.
Also, we have been in a rut, so to speak, and I know other families get in them, too. They play the same thing, they do the same thing and they fight over the same thing. For our family, it’s always creative, but for yours it may not be. I’ve had friend ask me how I get my kids to play together. I’ll share some other tips on that later. But for a lot of people, joining in the Toy Free Summer Challenge could really help jump start imaginations that have been going dormant amid a world of Ipad, Itouch… well, key word being I, I, I…right? Let’s help them snap out of it!! Get your kids creating!!
The goal is to get rid of anything that creates mess, causes solidarity, destroys any community in your family and wreaks general havoc in the house, so we can enjoy our moments better. Here are the rules for our family. Yours may be different.
GET RID OF:
- Things that are messy and doesn’t get put away on a regular basis.
- Anything that causes strife and gets fought over instead of shared and played with together.
- Things that don’t get played with, or we are tired of, but still takes up space.
- Anything that drives someone else in the family nuts.
- Anything that steals our peace, space or happy moments. (by fighting, excluding, hoarding…)
- Anything that makes noise, causes hyper-focus and ignoring of parents and/or siblings
- Extra blankets, cuddlies, stuffed animals, lovies… things that we can live without but cause clutter.
- Movies, handheld games, zone-out material other than books
- Games that require multiple players
- Things that require creativity, instead of direct it
- Things that we work with together on a regular basis without conflict.
- EACH OTHER
- Things that have been consistently cared for and put away. (legos!)
So, it’s a work in progress, as anything like this is, but in this case it is the brainchild of a little boy and girl. We’ll give them some time to perfect the process, shall we?
Feel free to do your own version of the Toy Free Summer Challenge and tell us about it!! We’re so excited about creating this concept for a stress-free summer outside the box, by boxing things up!!!